How do you talk about your motherhood?
It was that stressful afternoon when I had my gradings to finish. I am loving everything except grading. Every story, every event seems important. And then, I found a really really important event going on — my superhero friend is sharing her motherhood experience. I instantly thought I would join.
Right before the event, I started to feel uncomfortable (as I always do). I was finding excuses not to go. The event seems too stylish and high profile. My friend called me, and yes, I decided to join. Why should I bother about others when I have my friend around?
So the stories started.
First, it was the story of Badhon. An actress and a mother, Badhon. She handled her divorce when the entire world seemed to be against her. She fought a battle for the custody of her daughter — yes, the laws of Bangladesh are not favorable for women, mothers. Even her lawyer kept making disrespectful comments. I think, people in various positions think they can make comments to any woman. The gender hierarchy is too strong to deny. Well, the best part comes at the end. She decided to wake up, and take charge of her decisions. And yes, since then, she did it all. Taking on a full-time career, being an activist, and being an amazing mother. She referred to herself at the first phase of her life as being like Shabana, a movie actress in her early days who is known for many of her sacrificing acts as a devoted wife. But, seeing my own family closely, I know it takes a lot more positive energy and strength to try on — every day believing and re-believing in a relationship that is soon going to die. We do not recognize this strength. Probably we are scared to do that. Just imagine, if one can do that to an ill-relationship, what they could do for a healthy one? Leaving a salute to the new version of Badhon and a warm hug and respect for the older version of her.
The second story was just jaw-dropping. It was so strong, so bold that it felt unreal. I know Seuty for so long but still every part of it gave me shivers. Probably I never got to hear about this journey from her — I just observed her being a mother, staying in all the roles she holds actively. She shared about her journey to prioritize her dreams, finishing up her PhD, going on with spending some time with her spouse before actively thinking about brining a new life into the world. Yes, and ensuring the financial support for the baby all along. It all happened with an active and engaging life-partner, Shian. We were all listening to it without making a single sound. Can we do that? Oh yes, it is possible. It's an amazing example for the girls of today and tomorrow.
I came back home after having the warmth of being in between Seuty and Shian for dinner. After realizing the strength of the stories (being in a zombie state to enjoy them in my mind), I wrote social media statuses. But still, I felt the urge to share a bit more. So, yes, I am keeping the memory to myself in this blog.
Sending love for all the mothers in the world. You are all amazing in your own ways.
